abortion letter from baby to mommy

I know a lot of people do this to help them grieve for their unborn babies. I just keep crying. I love this story. Letter from a Woman Who Had an Abortion. Struggling with the decision I made. It breaks my heart everyday because I didnt really want to get rid of my baby I loved her ( felt she was a girl ), had a name picked out, went to multiple scans ( still got pictures ) .Today is a year since my surgery and I grieve her everyday I regret it . God bless you. God will see you through. The following article is one I submitted back in March 2017. In pregnancy, to be "late term" means to be past 41 weeks gestation, or past a patient's due date. Oh and one more thing abortion doesnt affect your fertility. I told my husband minutes before we left to go camping. I read this the night before my appointment for my abortion. I didnt want to be, but I had a hard time standing up to him and saying no for myself. A 33-year-old mother of three from central Texas is escorted down the hall by a clinic administrator prior to getting an abortion, at Hope Medical Group for Women in Shreveport, La., in late 2021. Thank you for this. I was 5 weeks and didnt know it. As I was peeing, I thought, Well, its definitely going to be negative since this isnt my first pee of the day. There are so many things I am looking forward to, and I can't wait to be held in your arms and taught by the very best mama I can think of! Your baby. I sit there like that until I hear the front door open and your dad walks in. Baby. the world makes us feel weak. I was in a a similar position. I just felt I needed more time to see other heart specialist and doctors to figure out what can be done about my heart before I have another child. we are just buying a house and i know money isnt good right now, but i cant help but hate his kids now bc i had to give up mine. And because I am one, I made the right decision. All these fears at once can seem unsurmountable, but when you help her chip away at each, she'll begin to feel more confident. ? She has told me she regrets her choice to abort the fetus, she has said that many times now. Just found out im pregnant as of today 6/18/2019. Im only 21 and Im not financially free. My eyes fixate on her belly, and I sob. I dont want to lose you. I have a three year old. I have seen many of my patients go through something similar and it is never easy. But why was this pregnancy right now? Xoxo , AUSTRALIA, My boyfriend does not understand either. Common Mistakes: the word "i" should be capitalized, "u" is not a word, and "im" is spelled "I'm" or "I am". It is simply not a choice anyone wants to make. I was clearly going to get my period. Me and my boyfriend were going steady and were a couple but we were very young, both of us college freshmen. is! I believe that ultimately, our babies are still with us in a spirit. 30 years old , Im pregnant now. I really care about him, but this all has put a serious strain on our relationship. Me and my boyfriend have our own issues and this time he wanted me to keep this baby but I told him Im not ready to become a mother. To cheer you up when you're sad. The 20-week ban adds another hurdle. I'm speaking. According to a webpage shared online by Crump, she has raised over $30,000 by Friday morning and will seek abortion care in North Carolina. The last paragraph brought tears to my eyes. Made the biggest mistake of my life 4 yrs ago. Then after that we took a break and he broke up with me on the day I got abortion and said that hes moved to a different state and didnt think he wanted to come back home. Thank you for writing this. Its not being selfish if you think about it deeper. I still wonder what if. I have seen God cry when rocking little babies in His big loving arms. purchasing sperm from a donor, via a cryobank I know it sounds irresponsible to have sex with a man that Im not with unprotected. And Ill honour them both every minute of every day. Having an abortion allowed me to live my life and fulfil my dreams but I did become depressed over it and the stigma of having one can be really hurt you. I wasnt ready to quit my job. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old with my husband but prior to that I got pregnant with a guy who I was on and off hanging out with and I decided to do an abortion because I knew he would not be there for me to support me on my decision but to be honest with you I do regret having to abort it. I dont want you to go through thisit never does go away. When I started getting very nauseous all the time my Mom said I was definitely pregnant and we went to the gynecologist who gave me an ultrasound and said I was pregnant. I still wonder if o made the right decision. Ive been employed in my feild for the past 4 years (student hires are highly sought in this feild). Sometimes I think about taking my life and then I think about my daughter . I will make my decision within the next 2 weeks. i struggle deeply with wanting to try again. The 'pro-choice' movement argues that a woman should have a choice to keep . I had an abortion back in 1999. The baby daddy is crying too because we have a lot to achieve in life and this isnt what we expected. Making an impassioned plea to her mother to not abort her, she shares her hopes and fears with the woman who can control whether she lives or dies. Dont forget the chips! I waited for him on the couch in our front room, digging my thumb into the ridge of my index finger on both hands. The Dublin Declaration , signed by over 1,000 medical professionals, states "As experienced practitioners and researchers in obstetrics and gynecology, we affirm that direct abortion - the. Ive been her best friend for 6 years and I never saw this coming. When I first found out I initially was a bit upset but over a few days I grew very attached. Your dad offers to drive me, but I want to listen to music on my headphones. I dont know what to do at all. Thats the last burrito hell ever order without any major care in the world, I think to myself. I was very sad.! 36 years old and its looking like I wont get another chance. I am 31 and have a 4 year old and an 8 year old step daughter. Each holiday, any milestone or time marker, what my world would be if I had chosen differently. Even if you have others support around you, it can so easily feel like youre going through it alone. Physically or health wise and its not suppose to be this way. How you still suffer over the very thought of it. I live with my boyfriend hes 39yrs old. I commend you for making that choice. Don't Forget That I Was Here By I want to experience the excitement of my first day at school im so lost on how to proceed. Always imagine what he or she will look like. He advised me continuing the pregnancy would be a danger and I decided more so on my own after talking with my mother if it was the right decision to make for the baby. How do you know? I pull out the test and show him the two pink lines. All the best to you <3. And I was supposedly either unable to conceive or it would be extremely difficult. Been with him for 5 yrs & hes still married to his first wife and they both share an 8yr old she wont let him see her since she turned 4yrs old but cries about her expressing how much he misses his babygirl. We sit in silence for a little while, then I ask him to sit next to me, and he does, all the while looking surprised. I know this choice that I am making will be the hardest but I know in the long run, I will be saving my child from being born into a dysfunction environment I at least owe my child that. I dont understand how someone who has children already, can be so selfish and cold hearted. Did you spell check your submission? It took me months to get back to normal, probably because of the hormones, and I got severely depressed and anxious. I sat on the toilet and watched as my destiny-deciding urine diluted with water, coffee, and last nights wine crept across the screen. The abortion will be via the pill (which I think is an awfully ironic name for it). This poem represents the voice of an unborn child pleading for its life. The procedure is done by a licensed healthcare professional. How do I pick them? But heres the problem, my husband and I are happily married. She made the choice within a day, and now she is so upset and emotional and traumatised. Weve been married about 10 years and I have children from my previous marriage that she loves as well but cant help being jealous of. Now, Im regretting every single day of my life. Hesitantly I got the pill, I was just a day before 10 weeks, I held my baby and cried until I couldnt. I dont think Im going to miscarry the baby at all this time I stopped bleeding. We just dont know what we actually want, since we decided to not have children. I know thats the right decision but I cant stop crying or thinking about baby . Once my ears have developed properly, What you did in your life is your history and your past and whatever you choose to share with your husband, or what he found out on his own, is a privilege; it is your truth and what he knows of that, he should consider as an honor, because it is your unique story to tell. I open it and see two pictures of you. Emotionally I suffered very badly for the first 2 weeks after the abortion (even to the point of being suicidal at times which is massively out of character for me) I was warned that pregnacy hormones around this time are at their strongest and to expect extreme moods. I'll be able to hear the sound of your voice. Thankyou all for sharing your stories + most of all the letter to the little light. Would you call that dad-approved? We, unlike many stories, are able to provide and give the child a good life. A week before the abortion he changed his mind and got attached to the baby. This story is so touching and Im thankful to have come across it. I work a half day, then your dad picks me up and we drive to Planned Parenthood. Everyone experiences the aftermath of abortion differently, but here is what I may have written in a letter to my aborted baby: Dear Asher, Precious boy, how I long to hold you in my arms. I hoped the pain and loss in my gut would fade away over time but it hasnt. I know the abortion has made me realise how much of an amazing mum I am going to be but I am also so desperate to be a mummy and the loss in my gut cant be put into words. I recently experienced my first pregnancy, at 19 years of age and with four years of nursing school ahead of me. The doctor leaves and your dad and I hold each other and cry. Please look into and join the face book group I Regret My Abortion there is a logo of a rainbow. I looked at them and I couldnt believe that that potential was now inside me. And I havent heard from him since. And with this tornado in my mind, I wrapped the pee stick (that represented my fate) in toilet paper (which, I couldnt help thinking, was a pretty good metaphor for what was now my life). I cried every day leading up to me making a decision, and I set the appointment for the very next day after I decided so that I would not have much time to change my mind. This brings me to a previous pregnancy right before this in which I unfortunately miscarried. I told him and he messaged me every day saying to abort it. Do I honor my heart and have another sweet lamb, potentially subjecting this human to another absentee parent who secretly resents their existence- OR- do I get the abortion. I know I made the right decision, but seeing him with his kids now breaks my heart bc he didnt want the one with me right now. I got an abortion two years ago and while I know it was the right decision it is something I still mourn, that was my first and my only as well and this article HITS HOME. For My Mommy (the cry of an unborn child) My boyfriend has two children ages 18 and 13. She gave her baby girl up for adoption, and now that baby is an adult. I want to be able to call you "Mom," and hear you say I'm yours. Filed Under: Archive, Blog, Let's Talk Abortion, I had an abortion 10 years ago and I still regret my decision because I was living in the country with out a permit at the time I was considered an iligal imegrant and I was afraid what was gone happen to my baby . She is 23, theyve been together 6 months and shes not ready for such a huge commitment. I had severe preeclampsia and had to do c-section at week 28. Ive been sobbing and my drive home I kept apologizing outloud for what I had just done. I found out I was pregnant exactly two years ago this weekend. Im in a very similar situation, I have a 3 year old, my fianc and I decided to try for number 2. Now that he had finally accepted it, it officially became reality. Financially we are already tight. I still was no where near ready for how much my life would have to change. This time is different. Ive often wished we met sooner so we could of had a child together. And soon I'll get my own fingers and toes. Thank you for sharing your story. I did not know why you were crying at the time. Your story sounds exactly like my own. I am so heartbroken. I wanted to give her grandchildren but that couldnt be my only reason for keeping the baby. And make you scream and shout, No baby should be murdered by its mother. Unfortunately my health started to take a turn for the worse. I had a late term surgical abortion, against my will. Hi Kenz. And even though he ejaculated irresponsibly, and voiced that he wanted me to become pregnant.. as soon as I was, we both knew what needed to happen and he was on board. I hope you are healing well and have found happiness in other areas of life, until you and your unborn baby see each other again. I think Ill visit an abortion clinic to avail of a medical abortion service because its difficult for me to survive if I have a child. I take his hand in mine and say, Everything thats happened the past few weeks doesnt matter anymore. We talked all weekend, tried finding ways to make it work but we both knew it wasnt the time because of so many factors, the big ones being my health and finances. I will terminate in 3 days. This hurts me down to my soul. Before the devil knew me, God knew me, he created everything. And each month, when it decided to, my period came. My mother killed me. It means so much to see it spoken by another. I am finish a social work degree and my fiance just finished his Masters and has started working. Im 11 weeks pregnant and Ive been dating a man for six months, I recently found out he is married but trying to get a divorce now, and hes been sleeping with her even when he knew I was pregnant. Im 22 and I recently went through my 2nd abortion. Im the same, my partner cant understand why it still or ever did sadden me, he says it was too early no heartbeat, for that reason he does not feel what I feel, I cry alone, still. I would never say that Im over it and my biggest regret is not being careful enough to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. Dont panic, I thought. He is quite a bit older than me and has 2 kids of his own already. Xxx, We are all such incredible and compassionate women. Id give anything to see my baby smile. It's just cruel." I am totally against abortion. I was a 19 year old college student with absolutely no plans to marry or have kids at that point. Helton-Haynes, a nurse by training, said in a phone interview the 2019 law was intended to protect both the mother and the baby. I knew she hurt for me too. No baby should be murdered by its mother. He abandoned me and hung up on me when I told him a few weeks ago. I loved you, my first, my only.. I love him he doesnt exactly feel the same, as per the way our relationship has gone these last few Years which caused it to end. All my life my dream was to have kids. Im going to mourn the abortion. I went through every logistic financial, physical, mental to see if I could go through with it. I loved this poem so much, it made me cry. They are a group of loving people who have been in your position. It is killing me to know she is alive now and she wont be in a few days. Only a few days have gone by since I was conceived and I am now growing in your tummy. This is me right now,I dont know what to do its so hard. My first pregnancy ended the relationship because I betrayed him, although he would never step down from his responsibilities , and thats how he made me feel. My arms ache for you. Thats the last burrito hell ever order without any major care in the world. My decision to have an abortion was a major fork in the road of my life. I realize this is an odd place to share this information, and I am in a much different situation now, but several years ago my partner and I struggled through severe male factor infertility when TTC my youngest. All other content on this website is Copyright 2006-2023 FFP Inc. All rights reserved. I had to. We chose 3 yrs ago to decide to be Childfree. Its something I think about every day. Up to this moment Im still thinking of her, asking God and her for forgiveness. If you do it, please remember you are not alone and it does get better And remember (if you believe) God will forgive you. She and her boyfriend are claiming that, if they could go back in time, they would have kept it. Hi Sarah, Ive just had a baby (two weeks ago) at 40, I do feel age is but a number. Im booked in for abortion on Thursday, Im already a single mum to two kids. Im so fearful I dont know what to do. I am sitting with this sweet being I cannot support, and feeling so sad. Youre still with me, and Im grateful for that too. We went to the clinic, me, my mom, and my boyfriend. The 45-year-old actor's statements on abortion were read at a rally outside of Mississippi's last abortion clinic, Jackson Women's Health Organization. Jessa Duggar Seewald, best known for her role on the TLC reality show "19 Kids and Counting," recently shared in a YouTube video that she miscarried what would have been her fifth child. I need to make my mind ??? One day you will be an amazing mum, dont doubt that! Were you touched by this poem? I knew I wanted to finish school, and with barely making enough to keep the house stocked with I knew I would have to turn to work full time to be able to keep it. I have been scouring the internet for stories because keep either seeing people who wanted to do it and doesnt regret it, or people who regret it all together. I was 5 weeks. Im always hunted by guilt almost everyday, same as you Im also working in Nursery school, so I always see kids that reminds of my poor one. Every now and then I am haunted. If it makes you feel any better, abortion is highly unlikely to affect your future fertility equally though Im missing my baby a lot. Not how I thought I would live my life. I felt a sense of love and attachment to the baby I knew I had to let go. I was 17 yrs old when I got pregnant, At that age I was not ready, alot of expectations from my parents await me plus the fact that I got pregnant by the person I dont love.so Ive decided to abort it by means of massage. We hope to be parents one day and in honour of everything that has happened and what we have been through are doing everything we can to build a secure future so that when the time is right we are prepared. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you. Please please please pray for us so that my darling would come back to me. I instantly thought about abortion and although I was afraid Id regret it I went ahead and scheduled the appointment. She is planning to keep the baby because she doesnt think she could handle the depression that would follow an abortion. Im afraid that in a few years I wont be able to based on my cervical health. I cough and drink more water until it goes down, close to you. That's exactly what I need to do for you. But no one talks about it. I cant quit my job, but I cant afford 2 in daycare either. Then I went into early menopause at 34 and never had kids. I am 6 weeks and already feeling flutters and I feel like I will never get past be this. Children cannot eat love and so please think about your financial situation. How are you coping? This resonates with me. Im ready,but am I really ready? I was shocked. So I can understand your conflicting emotions. I am a teacher and take care of infants to two year olds, Im devastated because in a better situation I would have kept this child. I am going through the same exact thing you are. I didnt touch you, but I felt you. I do wish I wouldve had more support during this time, mainly because my husband shut down due to his circumstances, but it has gone to show me just how strong I am and how much stronger I can be. Rapid thoughts flooded my brain. **** Truth is ive been crying my eyes out i am on birth control always on time with my pills. The month before was the most emotionally and physically exhausting of my life. Im just lost. I just passed the due date of what would have been my baby had i decided not to terminate. I am heartbroken. I love this man but i dont want a baby now and i feel the worst human being in this world for thinking that way. Like something to be dealt with, a burden that was his cross to bear. I felt you crying when you went to the doctor. Thank you for sharing your story, I made a promise to myself my decision was not in vain and Im almost done with my bachelors degree. I wanted to be your everything. I am not in a relationship with the indivdual that I am pregnant with and nor do I want to be as it is a toxic relationship. He made it clear that he did not want to have another child and truly no matter how bad I felt I wanted my baby, I did not want to do it by myself. Then told me I was over reacting for waking up in the middle of the night over and over crying. I literally cry every moment I think of aborting it. We dont regret it. I made the wrong choice. I was worried I would have preeclampsia again, which could put baby and me in danger. The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that 42 million abortions are induced worldwide each year. Im 28 now and I dont see having a kids in the future maybe because I cant forgive myself with what Ive done. Your dad looks at me and then the tests before putting them down, one in my lap and the other in his, but it falls in between us how symbolic. I dont think Ill ever forgive myself, I dropped out of school and my life is a mess. more by Gabrielle Kruger. It has only been two years. After decades of keeping her . Our hearts held firm. Three years later, I look back on that day as the most difficult, important, unforgettable, and un-regrettable moment of my life. My biggest fear is not be Abel to give my girl a sibling I will be 39 in a couple of days so . to NOT have to make this decision. But I dont want an abortion.. its heartbreaking ? Get the Poem of the Day delivered right to your phone! I took a test when i got home from work and sure enough i was. I would do things so differently. I just had to message to empathise that this is not an easy decision and I understand the turmoil you are likely going through right now. I miss my baby constantly. I PRAY my baby forgives me for being weak And she comes back to me. Im sending love your way, dear one. You definitely should keep it! I just want to be happy with him but its hard when we are on different pages. Im in exactly the same situation as you and just dont know what to do. The connection is like no other. Mothers should never be bored of their children. All the best. I personally cant do abortion nor adoption. I am totally against abortion. However, reading this, even though it did make me cry, also made me realize I could look at this moment as something to grow from and not just bury it away as a bad memory. Can I ask what you ended up doing? If anything more of their fault because they shoot the load but were the ones that have to suffer through the pain. I had not passed my probation period and I wanted to prove myself, to be as good as I could be. I found this whilst considering abortion. .. thank you so much for this. And I think I would have either way I would have decided so why am I finding it so hard to accept and move on. There are different ways to go about this, like: Im now 11 weeks and as soon as I found out I was pregnant he has gone back to abusing alcohol. Im at the point where leaving him is the only option because each day he tells me to get an abortion in person, texts, etc. Some in the anti-abortion movement use the song, or . I would give anything to have my baby back. I am sure I am going to be the And try my hardest at everything I do. Its what he wants. I know her from my dreams. Abortion pills are the most common way to end a pregnancy in the United States and have become a focus for anti-abortion groups and Republican officials seeking to block access in their states. Keep the faith, you are not alone . I just went through having to make a decision as well. Im not mad at you anymore. I knew that if I went in for an ultrasound and saw features on that monitor.. there was no way I could go through with it.

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